“Yes, love? I was busy but I’m always interested in what you have to say.“
I saw that on my twitter feed today and it grabbed me. This is precisely my love language. What is yours? I first became aware of the concept of “love languages” back about 10 years ago when I read Dr. Gary Chapman’s bestseller.
There are 5 love languages:
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
To be clear, this idea refers to how one feels loved, not how one shows love. I may show I love someone in a way i.e. a language, that does not cause him to feel loved. For instance, I may naturally want to give someone a present as an expression of love. But, she may not feel loved unless I hug her when I see her. I think I’m loving him by spending money on a present for him. Yet, because that isn’t his love language, he doesn’t really feel loved. Get it?
It took me quite a while, but #2 is mine: quality time which is explained so well here – “To your spouse, 20 minutes of your undivided attention – listening and conversing – is like a 20-minute refill of his or her love tank.” What is your love language?
Blessed is he who has his/her love language spoken to him/her every day.